Thursday, August 01, 2013

Opportunity for Healing Oppositional Defiance

We have started a new therapist for Shaela, who seems to be right on target and brilliant.  I am so relieved.  As she gets Shaela and her ways after the first visit, and sees that we are in a quandry with our parenting skills in addressing some of her behaviors, she deftly gives us the tools that will hopefully unblock the looping that is going on and creating so much frustration.  Shaela had all the descriptions of oppositional defiance disorder.  Not that I am big on diagnoses and putting people in boxes, but it did give me such a sense of relief to have this therapist describe and understand what Shaela and we are going through.

We begin our journey on correcting this.  We have seen Shaela truly blossoming and doing so well on the supplements we put her on to balance her genetic SNP that affects her ability to make neurotransmitters.  But we had still been getting stuck in the negativity looping and the constant small battles throughout the day.  It was wearing on us all.  I am so hopeful.  The stars seem to be aligning.

Last night, as Shaela was crying and upset that I am leaving for a week long trip to Alaska with my sister Sue, we talked about transitions and how hard they were for her.  I muscle tested that a lot of this fear stemmed from her birth transition.  We did some clearing.  When I went to go get her a supplement to help her calm her mind, I came back and found her in a much different state. She was calm and almost serene.  She said for a moment she felt like she didn't have a body, that she didn't exist.  I muscle tested that she had revisited the moments before coming into her body.  This is the moment before the initial trauma (a place we bring people to when we do our trauma release work).  It was pretty amazing talking to her about this.  Then of course in a few minutes, she came back to being sad about me going away, but she said she wasn't as sad anymore...  Pretty awesome.  Shaela is so amazing, she is getting things that most adults never experience or understand.  It is so fun to be able to talk to a child about past lives, monkey minds, preconception, sensing what her body needs and wants, etc.  She is still on a "no sugar" diet because she knows her body doesn't want it.  How amazing is that?!

So I believe Shaela can do anything and everything she sets out to do.  She is learning the times table right now.  It was hard for her to do it at first and she gave me all sorts of opposition, but once she sees that she can learn it, she is so excited and proud!  That is worth it. 

I love that amazing being!!!

Blessings of Love and Light,
Debbie