Sunday, June 29, 2014

Added notes

I forgot to add a few notes that happened in 2013-2014 between posts:
Shaela was going through phases of hating her name, so we all were calling her "Shae" instead of "Shaela".  Then she hated "Shae and Shaela and wanted to be called "Sen" after the character in Spirited Away.  We complied and was taught to call her "Sen", even family.  It was very hard to change, and when we forgot, got so much flack and anger from her.  So when we went full force to have her called "Sen" even at school, I told her she had to wear a name tag hanging around her that said "Please call me Sen".  And she had to be patient with friends and teachers in making the change.  As soon as we were prepared to make the change at school, she decided she liked "Shaela" and did not want to be called "Sen", however she now gets mad if you call her "Shae" which I was still conditioned to calling her.  So that is where we are at now....  Justin and I should be sainted.

Shaela had told me that she wanted to come back (be reincarnated) as a ghost and haunt people.  She thinks that would be so fun!

Shaela went to an ice skating birthday party, which she did not want to do for fear of falling and not knowing how to ice skate.  She did so well (I think in large part to rollar skating at Chinese Camp last year) that she wanted to ice skate and do it often.  Well, after the first lesson later, she did not like taking lessons and her enthusiasm waned, but it was fun while it lasted!

Shaela loves bike riding from the Clinic, she loves to read books like Judy Blume and about girls getting into trouble or fighting with others at school.  She also had been making lots of clay figures, bunnie, sealy, caterpiller and puffer.  She is playing and creating beautiful scores on the piano, that she can replay note for note.  In her end of year school play, she played "Swan Lake"  so beautifully.  She only takes some lessons at school with Greg.  We hope to do more next year.

Shaela's favorite movie was Frozen.  She knows the words to the song of Let it Go.  She wanted the doll for her birthday and got one from Nonna.  She tried unsuccessfully to try to teach me the words.  Yikes!

Shaela doesn't wear dresses much, she is all into layers and leggings all the way into the summer.  She likes comfort and to look good.  We have to cut all tags off of her clothes as she is very sensitive (just like her Mom).

Her new haircut is sooooooo cute!!!!!  And so easy to take care of.  No more endless struggles with cream rinse and trying to get all her tangles out.

Life is getting easier!  Blessings to All.
Debbie, Justin, Shaela, Kobi and Tara and fishies

Shaela is Transforming

Shaela is 9!!!
OMG Shaela is growing up so fast! So much has happened and there seems to never be enough time to blog about it. We have taken Shaela to the Gifted Development Center in CO beginning of June. She was tested and found to be gifted. Her verbal understanding and creativity were extremely high. She also was found to have auditory, visual and sensory processing disorders. They also thought she had PTSD, which was the reason for her intense anxiety. They gave us tools to use with her and suggestions for how to handle these disorders at home and school.
This testing was so important for us to understand Shaela's difficulties with clock work, math, and alphabetical ordering and looking up things in a dictionary. She would fight us so hard every day while we tried to help her with her homework. Our sweet family was breaking down and disintegrating into tears and anger everyday. Now we have more compassion and understanding of her situation and can help her better.

We then went to Able Kids Foundation in Ft Collins, CO to have her auditory processing assessed. This is the only place in the world that does this kind of assessment. It was fascinating. We found that Shaela's hearing is excellent, but she has little to no filters. It is like being able to have super hearing abilities, without being able to discern what is important or not. She hears speaking and shuffling papers as the same importance in her brain. This has been causing so much distress and overload in her poor little nervous system. That is probably why she has hated school and cannot make friends. When two people were speaking she hears it all jumbled. We had a filter made for one ear, and it is working wonders so far!

Shaela started her summer off in Film making camp. We thought she might like this since she is always making films in her head. Unfortunately, she did not want anything to do with the camera and making special effects. (this may be due to her visual processing disorder, so we didn't press). She was fortunately able to switch into the art camp, where she was very happy drawing and making creative art pieces. She still complained every day and was pretty negative.

The second week, we had gotten the ear filter and had also seen Lee Cartwright, a shamanic healer who had worked on Shaela's shattered etheric spine from Day 2 trauma. Shaela was in the Big Sky Science Camp making a large robot. She had the best week ever! The camp is set up with great and sweet counselors and is very safe feeling. Shaela at first was very worried about toxic smells and fumes (they had gone through safety training and told the kids not to inhale the fumes from soldering). Even though there was a girl from her school who was making mean faces at her, she did not obsess much (only mentioned it 5 or so times then let it go), and made several friends. She was as surprised at this as we were, wondering if it was the filter. We think she can hear better now and is not misinterpreting people like she had been. She would always think that people were talking badly about her and feel so outcast. She even had a misunderstanding when she heard a girl saying “I don't like you...” She asked the girl if she had said this, and the girl responded “no, I said I don't like when you do this....” the misunderstanding was cleared up and Shaela was relieved. It is like a miracle to have this kind of dialogue and interaction. In the past, Shaela would think she heard something and would react so vehemently and remain angry for weeks, obessing and not letting it go. Shaela actually said she like camp and was looking forward to more. She even said last night, that she is so happy because she “fits in now”. Something is definitely shifted. We are so greatful.

With her new found self, we went to get haircuts yesterday. She wants to look like Jade in Jackie Chan cartoons (the ones my brother does voice overs for). I told her that Jade's hair is short and wanted her to know this since she has been wanting to grow her hair out forever. She also has been having a hard time combing her hair, as it gets extremely tangled and gnarly with just sleeping on it. She decided she would get it cut, and thank goodness, she loves it! She got an angle cut and she looks adorable. She was so pleased that she said to me, “I am usually so hard on myself, so when I say I look good, people will think I look great!” She is so astute. She is so hard on herself and wanting to look a certain way and being dissatisfied with certain aspects of her self. This was another great moment.
Shaela (she hates being called Shae now!) wanted to be called Jade in camp, so they all called her this. At one point she had seen a girl from Oceanna's camp, Dragonfly, from last summer. She asked the girl if she knew a Shaela from that camp. The girl said yes. Shaela asked her if she liked her. The girl said “yes (Shaela was surprised), but sometimes she would get really angry.” Shaela than replied, “if you get to know her you would really like her, she is my cousin.”
She asked if I could let her be called “Kiera” for the Dragon Fly camp this year. She loves to pretend she is a different person with people, I am not sure why. Whether it is fooling people or pretending to be different, it may work itself out, as she emerges into herself and feels more confident.

For her 9th birthday, she had planned on having only adult friends. It was the best and least stressful birthday party yet. She knew from two years ago when she had a kid party, and one little girl melted down after the cake pops and threw a fit and ruined Shaela's fun, that she never wanted this again. She wanted a dinner party where people dressed up, and then later went to the hot tub and looked at stars. We did just that. It was fantastic. It also helped that we had Nasha and Steve there to help up cook and clean (everyone helped as well). Shaela even had her friend Marilyn come, who drove from Colorado to attend the festivities. I have never seen Shaela so mature and wonderful with all the company. In the past she would get jealous if I helped guests or asked them if they needed anything. She did not exhibit any of this that day. She opened her gifts and was so poised and gracious with each one. I was so impressed.

Shaela has been seeing angels, fairies and entities. I believe she can see these things from my understanding and verification through muscle testing and clearing. Obviously, I don't like when she sees entities and we clear them out fairly often. So we are enlisting the help of a ghost buster who clears homes, people and pets and land. She will be coming this morning and I am very interested in what she will find.

So much great information and such great happenings.
Sending lots of Love and Light to all those that are still reading this.
Blessings,
Debbie and Justin