Shaela is 9!!!
OMG Shaela is growing up so fast! So
much has happened and there seems to never be enough time to blog
about it. We have taken Shaela to the Gifted Development Center in
CO beginning of June. She was tested and found to be gifted. Her
verbal understanding and creativity were extremely high. She also
was found to have auditory, visual and sensory processing disorders.
They also thought she had PTSD, which was the reason for her intense
anxiety. They gave us tools to use with her and suggestions for how
to handle these disorders at home and school.
This testing was so important for us to
understand Shaela's difficulties with clock work, math, and
alphabetical ordering and looking up things in a dictionary. She
would fight us so hard every day while we tried to help her with her
homework. Our sweet family was breaking down and disintegrating into
tears and anger everyday. Now we have more compassion and
understanding of her situation and can help her better.
We then went to Able Kids Foundation in
Ft Collins, CO to have her auditory processing assessed. This is the
only place in the world that does this kind of assessment. It was
fascinating. We found that Shaela's hearing is excellent, but she
has little to no filters. It is like being able to have super
hearing abilities, without being able to discern what is important or
not. She hears speaking and shuffling papers as the same importance
in her brain. This has been causing so much distress and overload in
her poor little nervous system. That is probably why she has hated
school and cannot make friends. When two people were speaking she
hears it all jumbled. We had a filter made for one ear, and it is
working wonders so far!
Shaela started her summer off in Film
making camp. We thought she might like this since she is always
making films in her head. Unfortunately, she did not want anything
to do with the camera and making special effects. (this may be due
to her visual processing disorder, so we didn't press). She was
fortunately able to switch into the art camp, where she was very
happy drawing and making creative art pieces. She still complained
every day and was pretty negative.
The second week, we had gotten the ear
filter and had also seen Lee Cartwright, a shamanic healer who had
worked on Shaela's shattered etheric spine from Day 2 trauma. Shaela
was in the Big Sky Science Camp making a large robot. She had the
best week ever! The camp is set up with great and sweet counselors
and is very safe feeling. Shaela at first was very worried about
toxic smells and fumes (they had gone through safety training and
told the kids not to inhale the fumes from soldering). Even though
there was a girl from her school who was making mean faces at her,
she did not obsess much (only mentioned it 5 or so times then let it
go), and made several friends. She was as surprised at this as we
were, wondering if it was the filter. We think she can hear better
now and is not misinterpreting people like she had been. She would
always think that people were talking badly about her and feel so
outcast. She even had a misunderstanding when she heard a girl
saying “I don't like you...” She asked the girl if she had said
this, and the girl responded “no, I said I don't like when you do
this....” the misunderstanding was cleared up and Shaela was
relieved. It is like a miracle to have this kind of dialogue and
interaction. In the past, Shaela would think she heard something and
would react so vehemently and remain angry for weeks, obessing and
not letting it go. Shaela actually said she like camp and was
looking forward to more. She even said last night, that she is so
happy because she “fits in now”. Something is definitely
shifted. We are so greatful.
With her new found self, we went to get
haircuts yesterday. She wants to look like Jade in Jackie Chan
cartoons (the ones my brother does voice overs for). I told her that
Jade's hair is short and wanted her to know this since she has been
wanting to grow her hair out forever. She also has been having a
hard time combing her hair, as it gets extremely tangled and gnarly
with just sleeping on it. She decided she would get it cut, and
thank goodness, she loves it! She got an angle cut and she looks
adorable. She was so pleased that she said to me, “I am usually so
hard on myself, so when I say I look good, people will think I look
great!” She is so astute. She is so hard on herself and wanting
to look a certain way and being dissatisfied with certain aspects of
her self. This was another great moment.
Shaela (she hates being called Shae
now!) wanted to be called Jade in camp, so they all called her this.
At one point she had seen a girl from Oceanna's camp, Dragonfly, from
last summer. She asked the girl if she knew a Shaela from that camp.
The girl said yes. Shaela asked her if she liked her. The girl
said “yes (Shaela was surprised), but sometimes she would get
really angry.” Shaela than replied, “if you get to know her you
would really like her, she is my cousin.”
She asked if I could let her be called
“Kiera” for the Dragon Fly camp this year. She loves to pretend
she is a different person with people, I am not sure why. Whether it
is fooling people or pretending to be different, it may work itself
out, as she emerges into herself and feels more confident.
For her 9th birthday, she
had planned on having only adult friends. It was the best and least
stressful birthday party yet. She knew from two years ago when she
had a kid party, and one little girl melted down after the cake pops
and threw a fit and ruined Shaela's fun, that she never wanted this
again. She wanted a dinner party where people dressed up, and then
later went to the hot tub and looked at stars. We did just that. It
was fantastic. It also helped that we had Nasha and Steve there to
help up cook and clean (everyone helped as well). Shaela even had
her friend Marilyn come, who drove from Colorado to attend the
festivities. I have never seen Shaela so mature and wonderful with
all the company. In the past she would get jealous if I helped
guests or asked them if they needed anything. She did not exhibit
any of this that day. She opened her gifts and was so poised and
gracious with each one. I was so impressed.
Shaela has been seeing angels, fairies
and entities. I believe she can see these things from my
understanding and verification through muscle testing and clearing.
Obviously, I don't like when she sees entities and we clear them out
fairly often. So we are enlisting the help of a ghost buster who
clears homes, people and pets and land. She will be coming this
morning and I am very interested in what she will find.
So much great information and such
great happenings.
Sending lots of Love and Light to all
those that are still reading this.
Blessings,
Debbie and Justin
